Jan 19, 2026 – Uma's life and thoughts

We are still awesome…

Thirty-nine years later we are still going strong.

The intensity, the passion maybe the frequency has slowed down a bit.

Ok get your mind out of the gutter 😀

Yes, when we argue, it’s really on. But the finish is a lot quicker, as one party realises there is no way he was going to win this argument. I have also learnt to accept/tolerate certain annoyances.

So, yes, it’s 39 years since we said “I do”, In my opinion, along with “I do” there should be a list of “I won’t” promises as well.

I will do the dishes and I won’t spill water on the floor

I will put the food back in the fridge and I won’t leave just two spoons left in the dish

I won’t leave the coffee mug on the coffee table I will take it back to the kitchen sink

And the big one

I will listen to you, I won’t argue with you – because I know you are right

It has been fun and games the last 39 years. When I woke up this morning and realised it has been 39 years, the first word that popped in my head was “Good Grief” – Was it easy? Was it all bed of roses? Hell no! At times it was just hard slog. Not just marriage, but life itself. When so many things are thrown at you, one after another, with no reprieve, it is only normal to feel that you are going to lose this battle of staying afloat. But then, when you finally get to the surface to take your first breath and you see that, another person next to you…. You realise it would’ve been so much harder to do it solo.

So, Capt. Ganesan thank you so much for pulling this damsel out of the water each time. I was never a swimmer, even when we owned a pool, I just wanted to be left alone in the shallow end. But I have always loved the water and I get into the water, but, if you noticed, always only when you are there. So, make sure to always accompany me on this journey, you have a job, a responsibility, my dear Captain. So maybe it’s time for goodbyes to sausages and hello to carrot sticks (ok don’t shock me too much)

I read somewhere, that a woman might smile and laugh with any on the opposite sex but she will only cry or get angry for or because of that one man, she truly loves. I can sense my man feeling very proud of himself, “aw, she loves me so much and/but I make her cry”.

What a load of hogwash – maybe!!

But maybe she is crying that she has wasted her beautiful youth. You will never know which of the maybe’s her crying or yelling belongs to. So, there! do not anger her, do not make her regret, do not tell her that she picked the wrong guy, if she picked you as the right guy, you become the right guy. Trust me if I don’t think I have got you right, I promise, I will stick to you not just for this life time but for eternity till I get you right.

So, in summary the lesson after 39 years of marriage – Love can be exhausting, but like going to the gym, it is very much needed for a healthy life.

Enough of my rants – I like to share some of our memories and our life story.

This is a set of painting that adorn our corridor – We picked these gems at the Salamanca Markets in Hobart. It was so apt. It is definitely our story