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Today marks our Thirty-Four years of tug-of-war of Domestic Dominance. It has been ride like none other. We had to swim against the tide many a times. But here we are still (kind of) in tact.
To the love of my life and the pain of my daily existence,
Thank you for the past 34 years.
There hasn’t been a single day where I haven’t thought “Why me”
Then again you also make me emotional at the most unexpected times and win me right over.
You have the ability to make me think (lovingly) “how will I do without him?” and the on the same breath to sigh “What am I going to do with him”
Could you please stop doing that? Could you please let me keep my pride and anger and achieve “transformation Ganesh” (that has been a long overdue project, I may add)?
What does your report card look like?
Communication Skills – Needs improvement– attention to using more “please” and “thank you’s” in conversations needed. The speed of and willingness to say “sorry” needs to improve remarkably.
Compliance– Needs improvement. The word compliance means just that – Compliance – no questions ‘Just do it”
Comprehension – Lacking, Needs immediate attention. A starting point would be to have practices in place for better “listening”. Multi-tasking is not one of your strong fortes, so just listen – that means no TV or other distractions. Avoid “mm”.
Effort – Has shown improvement. But consistency would be appreciated. It would definitely decrease the “why me” status of your poor wife.
Overall Performance – Has a lot of potential. Has received many warnings and almost all mistakes have been repeated numerous times. But for unknown reasons has won me over year after year.
I know there is no cure for stupidity. I guess this is the key to this long-lasting marriage.
To My Darling (but sometimes a pain in the neck) Husband
I want to tell you a story of a “Young man with a Dandelion”.
Thirty years ago on this date, a young man (slightly dashing I might add), took a garland and then a jewellery named “Thali” and said to this rather naïve and pretty thing, “well I am your husband from this day forward”
But the story begins way before that. This said young man had apparently vowed that he was never going to get married (well that’s the story he is spinning currently, so I have to go with that)
It all changed when he tagged along with his sister to the Sri Lankan Tea fields. His sister had a friend who lived in the picturesque hill country of Sri Lanka. Couple of days of the fresh air and cups of tea somehow started to have an effect on this young man.
At the same time his sister’s friend had her own convictions. This girl avoided all advances or even a suggestion by the opposite sex. She sneered at girls who went gaga over boys. In her mind that was all a waste of time.
She had a clear plan for her life, she was not going to even contemplate boys until she was 23 or 24 of years of age (there was a method in her madness, thought it might be a distraction until she finished university). And when she was ready her suitor would be someone who was about the same age or not more than a 5 yr gap, No smokers, and only moderate drinkers were going to be even in the running. Well she had no idea that she was going to throw away all these rules just for a dandelion.
The three of them (the guy, his sister and her friend) took a pretty innocent walk down the tea fields. There must have been a change in the wind direction. Nothing else explains the rest of the events. The guy suddenly plucks a dandelion by the way side and offers it to this girl. Their eyes lock. She thinks far out it’s just a dandelion. They were laughing and talking about stupid things until then. There was no build up for this. There was no Andre’ Reiu or angels playing the harp. Just a dandelion and maybe that special look but something changed in her. Not sure what led the guy to pluck the dandelion. But according to him, she was different than others; she had somehow gnawed into his brain.
Many things happened after that, some sad and some mundane. But after two years, so 30 yrs ago their journey together began.
This dashing charming but slightly arrogant young man thought that he was marrying a beautiful young girl, who would dance to all his whims, do all his chores, and he thought he was set for the rest of his blissful life. Boy was he in for a shock. Little did he realise that this girl, who wore a nice naive smile, who looked pensive and obedient was in fact, (when prodded) was rather bull headed and was exactly like him.
In spite of the clashing horns, there was still a lot of love that kept the unity twined together. Also the Dandelion guy learnt that he was mostly wrong and even when he doubted the verdict, it was still better for his safety and well being to apologise to his wife and listen to her. So obviously they lived happily ever after. (Time to time he forgets but he soon learns his mistakes)
The girl does have a few messages for the Dandelion guy.
Thank you for the Dandelion.
Thank you for the German erasers you stole from the ship
Thank you for being there for me when my dad died
Thank you for marrying me
Thank you for caring for my mum as your own
Thank you for all the encouragement and being honestly proud of me when I was studying, you even cooked pizza for me when I got back late from College. And you hate cooking.
Thank you for giving me two beautiful kids
Thank you for always thinking about us before you
Thank you for accepting my friends as yours. Especially accepting Lalith means a heck of a lot for me.
Thank you for being there for all the highs and lows of the Westpac life. You gave me the confidence to excel and the courage to stand up.
Thank you for being the rock during my health scare.
Thank you for never doubting me and always believing in me. (Well have the same courage that I will stop at the traffic light, trust me, I am not colour blind)
Now she has some requests/ or demands
Never forget that we are a team. Lean on me when you need to. I am/ and will be always there, right beside you. All I ask in return is for you not to mix up the spoons, curry spoon in the curry and not in the rice.
Don’t forget taking care of you is kind of taking care of us. So please, take care of yourself and give me the opportunity to grow old together.