Tag: Love and Marriage

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Just Like that it is 37 years…

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Just like that, 37 years has whizzed passed us. How did we get here? How did we make it? What did we gather along the way?

To think it all started with a wayside Dandelion. https://uma197.com/2017/01/19/the-story-of-the-dandelion-guy/

How did we get here… a day at a time. But each day was different. Some days, we were skiing down the Swiss Alps and the other days we were climbing Mt Everest.  We dodged many avalanches on our way here. But we made it – together.

Was it all love. Oh, bloody hell, it better be, why would anyone put up with so much, if it was not for love?

At present my man is working to the bone in Geelong saving the planet and building our bank . And I am in Adelaide some 700km’s away. Hopefully see him at the end of the month. So, our anniversary outing has to be postponed.  Such is life.  In the last 37 years I have waited for more important things …

My man, eating healthy food and joining me at the gym… still waiting … pigs aren’t flying yet

My man being punctual … mmm, the pigs are still in their pen

My man being politically correct at parties and functions …. Here’s hoping that he will at his son’s wedding

My man throwing away all the clothes that annoy me and getting a new set of clothes…

My man not irritating me within two minutes of coming home…

My man actually GROWING UP!!! ….those darn pigs are staying put.

If I am still waiting for the above to happen, then really, I have not learnt anything in the last 37 years.  I think this is what’s called unconditional love

– or stupidity.

I met him when I was barely 19 and got married at 21.  It sure has been one wild ride. 

Although it’s a day to talk about love, I would also like to include the word “grateful”. 

I think our greatest achievement in this married life, is our two kids.  We are really grateful that we were blessed with two beautiful humans as our kids.

We are grateful for their achievements.

We are more than grateful that our family has dodged the many bullets that kept coming our way.

We are grateful for all the blessings and support we receive from our kith and kin.  I like to elaborate on this, we are both so lucky to have some of the most amazing relatives whose care is genuine and sincere.

We are grateful that we are both rich with great friends.

Our union is so much more, than just the two of us.

We will be celebrating our eldest son’s wedding very soon and busy with the preps at present. We are so grateful, that we are blessed enough to witness this budding young union.

I am truly grateful to my partner in crime for the last 37 years.

On a side note – what would be the moral of this story. “Leave the wayside dandelions alone”. They bring nothing but trouble.

Three cheers to my “Trouble”, we did it.  Thank you for the last 37 years.  Remember I am still waiting. Still love you loads and missing you like crazy.

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An Officer and a Gentleman – Remake

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Disclaimer: The following narration is my own assumptions and thinking. It may be quite far from the truth and facts.

Douglas Day Stewart an American Screenwriter and film director was well known for his rather risqué romantic movies. Who could be more romantic and risqué than a bunch of Naval officers. So I believe the birth of “An officer and a Gentleman” starring Richard Gere was with the notion of making a Romcom that was going to be a hit at the box office.  The said budget for the movie as per Wikipedia was 6-7 million and the movie then went on to rack up 190 million at the box office. I would say that was a definite hit for 1982. 

Unknown to Douglas there was a real-life Richard Gere in the making from around 1977. However, he came to his peak in 1985 when he met his real life, Debra Winger. One could say that was when he shined as a true Gentleman.

This real-life production took almost two years and came to fruition on the 19th of Jan 1987

The cast, writing and direction for this production were all just two individuals. They are Ganesh and Uma. 

In the great year of 1985 Chief Officer Nada Ganesan met a young lady by the name of Uma Sivapalan. Let’s call them G and U for the remainder of the narration. He was quite smitten by her natural beauty and grace (facts maybe embellished for the purpose of the story). She was caught off guard by his childlike charm and charisma.

This is no ordinary summersault – many glasses/bottles of C2H6O has passed through the system prior to this act

The story line may be very different to that of “An officer and a Gentleman”, But G knew how to melt the heart of U and his moves were not much further of Richard Gere. (Again, the facts may be embellished) Needless to say, U fell head over heels and was totally swept over. Officer G left for the UK to complete his masters and returned two years after with a promotion to his rank. Capt. G makes it formal and weds U.

These two photos were taken on their first official date

A few words to Capt. G from his lady U.

Not sure if you remember G, do you know where and when we watched “An officer and a Gentleman”? It was in the bar on “MV Sri Mathi”. I cried my heart out. Over the years I have seen much better movies and much better actors. However, I still have a soft spot for Richard Gere. Well, you know that.

But you know no one can replace the spot that I have for my real-life officer and the gentleman.  Yes, you swept me away then and sometimes even now at most unexpected times.

After 36 years of marriage, after many life lessons and experiences on its way – some pleasant and some unfortunately not so pleasant, the lyrics of the last song on the final scene “up where we belong” becomes more poignant and real.

Parts of the lyrics – the parts that ring true to us – deciphered.

Who knows what tomorrow brings

In a world few hearts survive

All I know is the way I feel

When its real, I keep it alive

Thank you for reviving it time to time

The road is long

There are mountains in our way

But we climb a step every day

(We were faced with so many avalanches and at times it feels like we are climbing Everest, but our love has proven to get stronger with each wind gust)

Time goes by

No time to cry

Life’s you and I

Alive today

(I know I have given you grief with my medical dramas. But that’s me. Don’t you dare to scare me again)

I am almost at the end of my narration. I just realised that I have not once insulted Capt G.  It is as cringeworthy as any romcom.  Maybe ours is that cringeworthy romcom. Sometimes you are my Richard Gere and sometimes my Shrek. Either way I need you by my side to climb this mountain.

We may not have racked up 190 Million, but we are definitely a box office hit.

So, my love let’s keep marching ahead and remembering yesterday

Looking forward to tomorrow

But importantly enjoying today

Loved you then, today and forever

(those who think I have rocks in my head, yes you are not entirely wrong)

On Board MV Lanka Sri Mathi – Photo credits possibly to Cadet Ranamuni